Prevent Miscarriage: Avoid These Daily Use Items

Miscarriages are heartbreaking. Planned or not planned, you still experience a loss. Expecting a baby changes how you look at everything, so when you lose a baby, your whole world seems to fall apart. I personally experienced two early miscarriages often referred to as a “chemical pregnancies” or “not sticky pregnancies.” It’s so hard. I had everything I thought my future would be ripped away from me twice. Because of these losses, I dove into research trying to make sense of my loss. I stumbled upon some research that I had never heard of and started learning about what in our environments can cause miscarriages.

“About 1/3 to 1/2 of all pregnancies end in miscarriage before a woman misses a menstrual period or even knows she is pregnant. About 10 to 20% of women who know they are pregnant will miscarry.”

Please note this information is in no way intended to shame anyone. We can only know what we’ve been made aware of and do our best with that information. My hope for this article is that it helps future mamas avoid the heart ache of a miscarriage. Be aware everyone deals with loss differently and my way of coping with the emotions is research.

The medical field is quick to blame women for their infertility using terms like “incompetent cervix” and “hormonal abnormalities,” but fail to note why we may be experiencing these things. I call BS. WOMEN ARE NOT AT FAULT FOR MISCARRIAGES OR INFERTILITY. The toxic environment and products we are being pushed to use are the cause.

“In 2011, University of California at San Francisco (UCSF) researcher Tracey Woodruff and colleagues reported finding traces of dozens of harmful chemicals in 99 percent or more of the 268 pregnant women whose urine they analyzed; among them were organochlorine pesticides, perchlorate, phthalates and cancer-causing compounds found in vehicle exhaust and smoke.”

It’s important to understand how genetics, illness, and our environment all interact to affect how we function. The key to the interactions is epigenetics. Once we are conceived, our genes are set in place. However, our genes can be turned on or off at any point in our life (or in utero).  Epigenetics is how our genes are expressed and gene expression can be altered by our environment. You can have no hormonal imbalances or family history of infertility but then be exposed to certain chemicals that will cause infertility (whether a result of epigenetics or toxic abortion).

Epigenetics is the study of changes in organisms caused by modification of gene expression rather than alteration of the genetic code itself.

Toxic abortion is a medical phenomenon of spontaneous abortion, miscarriage, or stillbirth caused by toxins in the environment of the mother during pregnancy, especially as caused by toxic environmental pollutants.

Chlorinated Water

A pregnant woman with a water bottle in hand is supposed to be a picture of health. We believe we’re doing right by our babies by staying hydrated, yet we are not being told of the risks that come with the treated water and water bottles.

“Drinking five or more glasses of cold tap water per day could increase the risk of miscarriage to women in their first trimester, according to a large-scale study of chlorinated drinking water by California state researchers.”

Chlorine is linked to a number of health issues such as cancer, asthma, and skin damage, yet it is used to treat water. Chlorine is a toxin in the body and can cause toxic abortion.

Makeup and Other Beauty Products

“Leading up to and during pregnancy, women are told to avoid alcohol and cigarettes, to make sure they get enough folate and omega-3 fatty acids, and to get adequate sleep and exercise. Most are told little or nothing about reducing their exposure to chemicals despite evidence suggesting that ingredients in plastics, vehicle exhaust and cosmetics additives can have profound impacts on babies’ health.”

“Although most chemicals in cosmetics pose little or no risk, some have been linked to serious health problems, including cancer, reproductive and neurological harm, and developmental delays. Cosmetic chemicals enter the body through the skin, inhalation, ingestion and internal use, and pose the same risks as food chemicals.[18] In addition to the risks posed by intentionally added ingredients, cosmetics can be contaminated with heavy metals, including arsenic, cadmium, lead, mercury and nickel.”

Top Toxic Beauty Ingredients:

  • Formaldehyde (Including Paraformaldehyde, Methylene Glycol, Quaternium 15)
    • “Exposure to formaldehyde has been linked to higher risk of congenital anomalies, low birth weight, and premature birth. Higher miscarriage rate has also been reported in several previous studies performed in various groups of women.” (See here).
  • Mercury
    • “Studies have shown that heavy metals like lead (Pb), cadmium (Cd), and mercury (Hg) have toxic effects on reproductive outcome and are also associated with miscarriages.” (See Here)
  • Phthalates
    • “Women with the highest concentrations of a type of phthalate called di-(2-ethylhexyl) phthalate, or DEHP, were 60% more likely to lose a pregnancy prior to 20 weeks than those with the lowest concentrations, the study found.” (See here).
    • “researchers found that those with the greatest urinary concentrations of monoethyl phthalate (MEP)—a type of phthalate commonly found in personal care products such as fragrances and cosmetics—had twice the risk of excessive weight gain during pregnancy than those with the lowest concentrations. Those with the highest mid-pregnancy MEP concentrations also had a seven-fold higher odds of impaired glucose tolerance (higher-than-normal blood glucose levels) in mid-pregnancy than women with the lowest concentrations” (See here).
  • Parabens
    • While I have not located research directly linking parabens to miscarriage (because no studies have been conducted), research has clarified parabens are absorbed through the skin and passed to the baby and have negative effect on mom and baby. One study found parabens would alter a child’s epigenetics (aka the turning on or off of certain genes) to be less satiated after a meal. 
    • “positive correlation between the concentrations of butylparaben in the mothers’ urine and a higher body-mass index of their children — particularly of the daughters — until their eighth birthday.” (See here).
  • PFAS (per- and polyfluoroalkyl)
    • “The study estimated a nearly 80% to 120% increased risk for miscarriage in women with the highest level of two common PFAS compounds, compared with those in the cohort with the lowest PFAS levels.” (See here).
  • M- and O-phenylenediamine (in hair dye)
    • A known carcinogen (cancer causing) shown to absorb through the scalp. While studies are very limited, hair dye is associated with increased risk of miscarriage.
    • “Hair stylists, who’ve spent many years being in daily contact with hair dye chemicals, do appear to have a slightly higher risk of having a miscarriage. This is thought to be due to regular contact with chemicals in dyes called teratogens, which can cause birth defects and increase the risk of miscarriage.” (See here).

Plastic (BPA and Phthalates)

“Researchers concluded that women who had high levels of BPA in their blood were at significantly increased risk of miscarriage compared to women with the lowest levels.”

Unless plastics or metal note that they are BPA free, you can assume they contain BPA. 

See above for the research on phthalates.

How To Avoid These Toxins

Chlorinated Water

Berkey filter

I talk to mamas all the time who are having trouble getting pregnant and recommend the berkey! We tried for over a year to get pregnant with our second and within two months of switching to drinking berkey only filtered water. I got pregnant and brought our second child earth side nine months later!

The Black Berkey Filter’s performance can be summarized as follows:

Viruses: >99.999% Exceeds Purification Standard (Log 4): MS2 Coliphage – Fr Coliphage

Pathogenic Bacteria Surrogate: >99.9999% Exceeds purification standards (Log 6): Raoutella terrigen

trihalomethanes: Removed to >99.8% (Below Lab Detectable Limits): Bromodichloromethane – Bromoform – Chloroform – Dibromochloromethan

Inorganic Minerals: Removed to Below Lab Detectable Limits: Chlorine Residual (Total Residual Chlorine

Volatile Organic Compounds (VOC): Removed to Below Laboratory Detectable Limits

Heavy Metals: Aluminum, Antimony, Barium, Cadmium, Chromium, Cobalt, Copper, Hexavalent Chromium (Chromium 6), Lead, Mercury, Molybdenum, Nickel, Vanadium

Also removes or reduces: Arsenic, MBAS, Nitrites, Selenium, Thallium, Rust, Silt and Sediment, Turbidity, Foul Tastes and Odors

Other Options

You can also remove chlorine from your water by leaving it in an open container at room temperature for a few days, using a UV light, or boiling your water for 20+ minutes.

Chemicals in Daily products

  • Use glass or bamboo rather than plastic.
  • Buy organic beauty products marked paraben and formaldehyde free.
  • Eat fresh – garden or buy fresh from the farmers market rather than packaged.
  • When buying packaged foods, check that containers are BPA free (this includes canned food).
  • For fabric, (clothes, curtains, sheets, etc.) skip the polyester and buy organic cotton or bamboo.
    • “Is polyester toxic? So, the straight forward answer is: yes. Polyester is a synthetic material which has many toxic chemicals embedded in it. … Also, if you wear synthetic clothes, your body heat also releases these chemicals into the air and the chemicals are absorbed by your skin.”
    • Organic Cotton Home Products
  • Organic Cotton Clothing
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Are there any other toxins that need to be avoided during pregnancy that I haven’t mentioned? Has your medical provider ever mentioned these dangers? Any tips for other mamas and future mamas?

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A Natural Mamas Guide to Postpartum Healing & Recovery

     Being a new mom and experiencing postpartum was, and is, one of the strangest and most difficult transitions I have ever experienced. As someone already familiar with the world of parenting and childbirth due to my education (masters degree in infant and toddler mental health and 8 years as an infant and toddler teacher), I thought I had some slight idea of what postpartum would look like. Oh, how wrong I was. Most likely, your body will look nothing like your pre-pregnancy body and really it shouldn’t. After all, you just created another human. It takes a toll on your body. From the fun and oh so stylish adult diapers to the roller coaster of emotions, postpartum can be a challenging and life altering experience.

      Having a home birth with my first, I had a supportive group of midwives to guide me and attended monthly childbirth classes. We discussed the process and what to expect regularly. Regardless of the support and education, there were things I just had no clue about, especially regarding the postpartum body. First off, I felt like I had been hit by a car after birth. Every muscle in my body ached and I couldn’t walk unassisted for a few days. To be fair, I had an unusually long labor, 75 hours, with around 7 hours of pushing, but I had no idea I would be so physically exhausted and aching after birth. I knew birth was hard and would be painful in its own regard, but I didn’t realize the residual pain it would cause, and not just in my nether regions. Pregnancy and birth completely changed my body. Everything looked and felt different. Fluids were coming out of literally everywhere. I would wake up drenched in sweat, breast milk and other fun fluids everyday for weeks. (Apparently heavy sweating is a postpartum thing?!). I didn’t recognize myself or my emotions. I would swing quickly from one mood to the next even though I had some lovely bliss hormones from meeting my new baby. Postpartum is different for everyone, but if no one shares what really happens, how can any of us really prepare for this crazy time? I had endless numbers of people attempt to tell me what to expect from the baby, but no one told me I’d be in diapers icing my nether regions for a week or so.

    Thankfully, my midwives, tips I picked up from other moms, and my own research helped me to make it through postpartum and heal my body. After what felt like endless months, I found my balance and my identity as a mother. I began to feel healthy and whole again. As I prepare to bring my second child earthside, I’ve decided to compile a list of helpful tips for postpartum to make the transition less dramatic and easier for myself and hopefully for other mamas who face the transformative time of postpartum. 

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Magnesium and Zinc Supplements

A few months into postpartum, I found myself still struggling with the baby blues and mood swings. I struggled to regulate my emotions. Looking for solutions, I took to the internet and dived into the research. I was so thankful to have actually found somewhat of a solution. It turns out, depression or depressive symptoms can actually be a symptom of magnesium deficiency. I even heard a few other moms mention it helped them during their postpartum period. I decided to try it out and within a day I found it easier to enjoy daily living and not so hard to regulate my emotions.

“Magnesium deficiency could cause abundant psychiatric symptoms including depression, behavior disturbances, headaches, generalized tonic-clonic as well as focal seizures, vertigo, tremors, irritability and psychotic behavior”

“In pregnancy, the fetus and placenta absorb huge amounts of nutrients particularly magnesium from the mother; this depletion of magnesium with not enough intake of magnesium by the mother is hypothesized to be the cause of postpartum depression.”

Although I personally did not try zinc supplements during my postpartum time with my first, I plan to try it with my second. Similar to magnesium, this mineral may play a key role on postpartum mood disorders.

“Zinc as a trace element has the second highest concentration of all transition metals in the brain, and its deficiency is associated with behavioral disturbances. Lower zinc blood concentration was found in women with postpartum depression.”


Herbs have endless medical and healing properties and are a great resource for healing during postpartum. From sitz baths to teas, herbs can play a key role in healing after giving birth.

For a sitz bath or peri bottle to promote healing after birth, there are some great recipes of natural herbs to prevent infection, soothe pain, and speed up healing. My favorite recipe is from Wellness Mama:


1/4 cup Comfrey Leaf

1/2 cup Lavender Flowers

1/4 cup Plantain Leaf

1/2 cup Red Raspberry Leaf

1/4 cup Yarrow Flower

1/4 cup Calendula Flowers

1/4 cup Shepherd’s Purse

1/4 cup Uva Ursi Leaf

1/4 cup Sea Salt or Epsom Salt

You can find a premade sitz herb mix here.

If you are interested in a calming cup of tea rather than a soak, there are a few great options that will help you heal and recover.

Red Raspberry Leaf Tea

Red raspberry leaf tea strengthens the uterus, helps it to return to it’s pre-baby size, and eases postpartum cramping pain.

Chamomile Tea

Chamomile tea regulates digestion and promotes calming relaxation to ease anxiety and promote better sleep.

Ginger Tea

Ginger tea promotes breast milk production, relieves nausea, and reduces stomach cramps.

Nettle Leaf Tea

Nettle leaf tea helps restore iron levels, calms the body, and boosts breast milk supply. It also replenishes the body because it is a great source of vitamin A, vitamin C, iron, calcium, magnesium, and potassium.

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Even if this seems like common sense, it needs to be said. Getting outside during the postpartum period is pretty low on any mamas priority list, but it’s necessary for you and baby. The sunshine will replenish your Vitamin D, as well as babies, and regulate both of your hormones, especially sleep hormones. The more natural light baby gets, the more likely they’ll jump on a day/night sleep schedule and you’ll all get more sleep. Not to mention, the awesome happy hormones the sunshine will help you release.

“The light-induced effects of serotonin are triggered by sunlight that goes in through the eye. Sunlight cues special areas in the retina, which triggers the release of serotonin.”

Support & More Support

As much as you may think you will not need support during postpartum (me thinking i could be  a super mom), you WILL need support. If you don’t have family or friends available to help, try to set aside money or request as a gift from your baby shower practical support like a maid or food service. Enlist those who are willing to help with the daily duties, not the baby, while you recover and bond with your new baby. Although I didn’t really want my mother to be present after having my daughter so I could enjoy my new time as a parent, I actually ended up being really thankful she did show up. She was happy to help with the grunt work like laundry, dishes, and walking the dog while I focused on my new role of being a mom. Also if possible, have your partner take off as much time as possible. You’ll both want to be present for these new days and learning together what works makes you feel more like a team.

Postpartum, or the fourth trimester, is a substantial time in your new experience as mama and while no one can predict how it will go, it is helpful to have natural healing remedies on hand to face any challenges that may arise as well as ease the basic aches and pains that come with giving birth.

Please note I am not a medical professional and this information should not be substituted for medical advice.

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Realistic Expectations for Motherhood

The Truth About Motherhood

I remember when I was the perfect mom, you know, before I had kids. It is so easy to say what kind of mom you will be before you have kids, but the truth is you have no idea and, honestly, it really hurts our experience as mothers when we have unrealistic expectations. Having unrealistic expectations brews resentment, disappointment, and self hate, while we could just live in the truth of motherhood, the dirty, difficult, but absolutely beautiful in it’s own right, motherhood. I wrote this to share my experience as well as hopefully prepare future mamas for the reality that is motherhood so they don’t experience the unfortunate shift in reality a lot of us go through.

I think the most important point that we often do not consider before becoming mothers is that we cannot control who are child is. You can do everything “perfect”, but each child has their own personality, tendencies, ways of doing things, and own struggles. We forget that babies and toddlers are just little humans with their own personalities and ways of seeing the world. Regardless of what you do and how you parent, you may have a very “difficult” baby or you may have a very “easy” go with the flow baby. This is their personality (or temperament) and we don’t really have a say in it.

Along with their own different personalities comes different ways of dealing with things. While it helps to be knowledgeable about child development and behavior management, some kids are going to have tantrums. Some children have sensory processing disorders and get overwhelmed. Most toddlers will develop separation anxiety and stranger anxiety and, to a certain extent, this is completely normal. You can’t parent to prevent this. You can however parent to be supportive and consistent, but that’s another conversation.

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The other thing is the expectation that we will be super moms before we ever even become a parent. This false ideal of being a super mom creates terrible disappointment and mom burnout. Parenting is EXHAUSTING. It is the most mentally exhausting thing I have ever done (and I taught a room full of toddler for five years. Parenting is different. It is constant). There really is no break, even if someone gives you a break, you think of your child pretty much constantly. Becoming a mom changes everything. Do not expect to be the same productive person who does it all when you become a parent. Actually, don’t expect to be the same person at all. Your child will be your biggest teacher in life and you absolutely will change and that is okay, embrace it. While you eventually will get into your own groove as a parent, there is a huge adjustment. I thought I was going to be able to build my business, keep the house spotless, take care of my young crazy dogs, maintain a thriving marriage and be an amazing, ever-present mama. Oh boy, was I wrong. It took me about eighteen months to really settle into myself as a mother and figure out the balance of being myself and a mother as well as a part of society and that is also okay. We don’t have to figure anything out right away and I just wish someone would have told me that.

The Nature Books You Need In Your Homeschooling Library

Whether distance/online schooling, home schooling, or unschooling a good home library is key to the learning process for any child. Every child can learn on their own with a good book, even if they’re not reading yet! These books, with beautiful images and lots of easily digestible information, will allow your young learner to grasp the science of nature in a more relatable and meaningful way.

The Big Book of the Blue (The Big Book Series)

The Julia Rothman Natural Anatomy Book Set

Curious Kids Nature Guide: Explore the Amazing Outdoors of the Pacific Northwest (Books)

The Wonders of Nature

The Big Book of Bugs

Botanicum: Welcome to the Museum

The Big Book of Blooms

In The Garden

A Kid’s Herb Book: For Children of All Ages For Children of All Ages (Books)

Foraging with Kids: 52 Wild and Free Edibles to Enjoy With Your Children

The Magic and Mystery of Trees

The Tree Book for Kids and Their Grown-Ups

What are your favorite homeschooling or nature books?

The Natural Mom’s Postpartum Healing and Recovery Essentials

Postpartum is a time of transition when your body is unfamiliar and the little human you’ve been growing is learning the outside world and how to communicate. Everyone is tired. Everyone is messy. There’s beautiful, blissful moments and heart wrenching, dreadful moments. With so much to navigate and learn, it can make a huge difference to be prepared for this time of transition. With a little preparation, postpartum can (usually) be a time of healing and bonding rather than flat out chaos.

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Mess Control:

When my first child came along, the mess of postpartum was something I was not prepared for. I knew birth would be messy and I’d have to wear an adult diaper after. What I didn’t know is that the mess continues for quite some time in the form of bleeding, clotting, leaking breasts, spit up, diaper explosions, sweating, and all the fun mystery fluids. I quickly ran out of all the natural postpartum gear I thought I had stocked up on. Being a natural minded mama, I was left scrambling trying to quickly source non-toxic, low-waste solutions for this messy time. This list resembles how I stocked up for my second home birthed baby to avoid the postpartum chaos.


Adult Diapers

Rags & Burp Cloths

Tools for Healing:

  Having a home birth with my first, I had a supportive group of midwives to guide me and attended monthly childbirth classes. We discussed the process and what to expect regularly. Regardless of the support and education, there were things I just had no clue about, especially regarding the postpartum body. First off, I felt like I had been hit by a car after birth. Every muscle in my body ached and I couldn’t walk unassisted for a few days. To be fair, I had an unusually long labor, 75 hours, with around 7 hours of pushing, but I had no idea I would be so physically exhausted and aching after birth. I knew birth was hard and would be painful in its own regard, but I didn’t realize the residual pain it would cause, and not just in my nether regions. Pregnancy and birth completely changed my body. With time and a few key supports, my body began feeling it’s new normal and everything healed wonderfully.

Peri Bottle

Herbs (Find my favorites here)

Essential Oils

Epsom Salt



Earth Mama Herbal Balms


Nursing Tops

Comfy Nursing Bras

Booby Tubes®

Breast Pads

Organic Nipple Butter (Hot & cold pack for breastfeeding)

For Fun & Memories:


My First Year Book

What have you found essential for Postpartum?

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The Peaceful and Intentional Mom Challenge

15 Days To Intentional Parenting

Motherhood is challenging. I’ll keep saying it on repeat because I never want to mislead anyone. Motherhood will push you in every way; testing your patience, your ability to communicate, your expectations, your plans, and well, EVERYTHING. Motherhood changes everything. That is okay, and even great, if you allow it to be. Motherhood can teach you how to be more peaceful and intentional. I know, it’s contradictory. Motherhood can make you lose every last bit of your sanity but it can also push you to find and hold tight to your inner peace. You’ll quickly learn, without intentionality, motherhood is utter chaos. Don’t confuse being intentional with being planned or organized. I by no means am discussing being more organized, having a sparkling home, following a long written-out schedule or any of those more surface level ways of honing motherhood. I am, however, discussing planning your thoughts, your reactions, and your way of being with your children. When I discuss intentional motherhood, I mean planning the mother you want to be and putting into action your desired qualities rather than living moment to moment trying to respond to each issue on the fly. Becoming an intentional mother means deciding who you want to be as a mother and making it happen. It DOES require planning, but don’t worry, you can put your schedule away. This kind of planning requires deep reflection, personal assessment, and really getting to know who you are and who your children are. 

“The key is not to prioritize your schedule but to schedule your priorities.” Steven Covey

The goal of this challenge is to start chipping away at thriving as a mother: Stop kicking into survival mode and actually start being the mother you want to be. Don’t worry. This is a judgement free zone. I, by no means, have it all figured out. I’m in survival mode much more than I want to be, which is why I decided to make this challenge. I know I’m not alone. I know there are so many of us who just want to catch our breath and start being the mom we always intended to be. I’ve started down the road of intentional motherhood and wanted to help you get started as well. I know you’re busy, so daily practices to become more intentional will never ask for more than 30 minutes of your time.

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“An unintentional life accepts everything and does nothing. An intentional life embraces only the things that will add to the mission of significance.” John C Maxwell

Day 1:

10 Minute Journal Session- Jot down notes on the mother you want to be. Note any fictional mothers who have inspired you or characteristics of mothers you want to embody. If you’re feeling extra inspired, include a photo of some motherly inspirations.

Make a list of 5 affirmations you want to use daily to embody the characteristics you want to hone as a mother.

Day 2: 

Here are my affirmations for inspiration-

  1. I can access my abundant inner peace whenever I need.
  2. Patience comes easily to me.
  3. I find joy in the chaos of motherhood.
  4. My actions are aligned with my values.
  5. I am a magnet for peace and positive energy.
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Day 3:

10 Minute Journal Session- Define peace. What does peace look like to you? How do you enact peace as a mother?

Day 4: 

Make a list of daily priorities (be realistic or it won’t help). Where does bonding with your child fall? Where does self care fall on your list? Can you rewrite the list to be more aligned with your values?

Day 5:

10 Minute Journal Session- What are your intentions as a mother? What qualities and values do you want your children to have? How do you or how can you role model these qualities and values?

Day 6:

List 5 Goals You Want To Accomplish As A Mother

Define each goal clearly and how you can accomplish the goal. Post your 5 Goals somewhere you will see them daily.

Day 7:

10 Minute Journal Session- What makes you feel like a “bad” mother? What are the parenting characteristics you want to change in yourself?

Day 8:

Revisit your affirmations- Have you been saying them daily? Are there any you want to change or add? Are any particularly helpful?

Day 9:

10 Minute Journal Session- What would a perfect day look like as a mother? What could you do to make each day more similar to your perfect day?

Day 10:

List and put into action 3 ways to bond with your child today. Try to make a list for each of your children.

My ways to bond list:

  1. Read books together
  2. Go on a walk without using any technology (i.e. don’t take pictures or talk on the phone)
  3. Have a dance party
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Day 11:

10 Minute Journal Session- Reflect on bonding plans. What worked? What didn’t work? What could you do differently next time?

Day 12: 

Be vulnerable. Talk with your significant other and/or your kids about the kind of mother you want to be. Get their feedback on how you could be more aligned with your parenting goals.

Day 13:

10 Minute Journal Session- When is it hardest to be intentional and parent how you intended? What can you change about the environment and your actions to make these times less common?

Day 14:

Focus on one parenting goal. Reflect on how you can accomplish that goal today. Write yourself a list of tips and reminders and leave them in a noticeable place that will help you stay on track throughout the day.

Day 15:

10 Minute Journal Session- What have you learned about your parenting? Would you adjust your parenting goals? What are ways you can continue to be a more intentional parent?

“Be the change you want to see in the world.” Mahatma Gandhi

Resources To Grow As An Intentional Parent:

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How Gardening Makes You A Better Mother

Parenting Lessons I Learned From My Garden

Gardening makes you a better mother or parent. Not because you’re “being more productive” or “more natural” but because you can learn a lifetime worth of lessons in one garden season. If you allow it, the garden can help you grow and evolve. Gardening has taught me many lessons in such a short time. My garden has forced me to hone skills and qualities I’ve tried many times to master as well as qualities I’ve never utilized. From the natural process of growing a garden and the environmental challenges, such as deer devouring my garden, the following are a few of the skills and lessons this garden season has forced me to practice.

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Effort Makes All The Difference

A seed cannot grow if you never plant it: in gardening and parenting. If you don’t put forth the effort, you can’t get what you desire. If you want Zucchini, you need to plant Zucchini seeds. If you want a child who lives with kindness you must show and teach kindness. We have to put in the effort to get the beauty & bounty; whether that be a thriving and healthy garden or child. 

“Remember that children, marriages, and flower gardens reflect the kind of care they get.”

— H. Jackson Brown, Jr.

Growth Takes Time

It takes time to see the growth from your efforts. A sunflower doesn’t bloom the day after you plant the seed. It takes time.

“A garden requires patient labor and attention. Plants do not grow merely to satisfy ambitions or to fulfill good intentions. They thrive because someone expended effort on them.”

— Liberty Hyde Bailey


As the garden takes time to give back for the effort you’ve put in, it teaches you patience. Instant gratification doesn’t exist in the garden. We find instant gratification with most things in modern society, which leaves us inept with patience and therefore unprepared for parenthood. With gardening and parenting, we learn even with love and effort, we won’t immediately get what we desire.

“Everything that slows us down and forces patience, everything that sets us back into the slow circles of nature, is a help. Gardening is an instrument of grace.”

— May Sarton

Peace & Contentment

The garden, with all it’s beauty and calmness, teaches peace & contentment. Something about it’s beauty feeds the soul and shows you the way to your inner peace.

Lessons From The Garden

The Importance of Having A Relationship With Dirt

Gardening will show you how important it is to have a relationship with dirt. As a parent, this is an important lesson. Your child will crave to play in the dirt and for their health and wellness, it’s important you allow them to do so and even encourage them.

“In the spring, at the end of the day, you should smell like dirt.”

–Margaret Atwood

The Undesirable Will Happen (and that’s ok)

The garden will never go exactly as planned; neither will parenting. The garden will show you that no matter how astray things may go, with commitment and love, it will still be beautiful. Flowers will blossom and fruit will form. 

“A flower falls, even though we love it; and a weed grows, even though we do not love it.”


These are all beautiful and necessary lessons to hone for motherhood and a garden is a wonderful and forgiving place to learn such lessons.

What have you learned or hope to learn from your garden?

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What You Need To Read Before Homeschooling Your Child

Whether you’ve always planned to homeschool your child or have newly decided to homeschool due to changes from Corona Virus, homeschooling is a consequential and life-changing endeavor for the parents and child(ren). It’s important to be informed and change your view from mass schooling and typical education to individualized and personal learning. Public school is intended to easily educate a mass of people, so when you choose to homeschool, it does not make sense to follow the typical teaching and learning methods used in the education system. In order for you, as an educator & guide, and your child to thrive in homeschooling, it is necessary to learn the research behind natural, child-centered learning. This list of books will give you more than enough information to become an expert (and happy) guide in your child’s home learning process.

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Unschooled by Kerry McDonald

If you read just one of these books, make it this one. This is a research and experience filled book that reveals the importance of taking an alternative approach to education that allows children to learn according to their own interests as well as how to support and optimize that learning process.

Passion-Driven Education by Connor Boyack

One of the reviews I read for this book talks about how it broke the mom’s heart that she didn’t read it before homeschooling because she felt she wasted years not igniting her children’s passion for education. A must read before homeschooling in order to change your approach and get your child(ren) engaged and passionate about what they’re learning.

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Brave Learner by Julie Bogart

Written by a mother who homeschooled her own children, this book teaches parents how to make homeschooling a part of daily life rather than forced and scheduled curriculum. It invites parents to live curiously and role model for their children how to learn by exploring interests and adventures. It provides practical and applicable ways to make homeschooling easy and effective.

Free To Learn Peter Gray

A developmental psychologist discusses the importance of shifting learning away from structured and forced schooling to children pursuing their own interests through play to become passionate and curious learners.

Balanced and Barefoot by Angela Hanscom

Learn the importance of unrestricted outdoor play on your child’s health and development. The book also provides helpful strategies on helping your child thrive regardless of where you live.

How To Raise A Wild Child by Scott Sampson

A research filled informative book on why and how to get your child interested and engaged in being in nature and outdoor learning.

“The best education does not happen at a desk, but rather engaged in everyday living – hands on, exploring, in active relationship with life.” ~ Vince Gowman

The Beautiful, Natural, & Unassisted Birth Story Of Our Second Child

It is so strange and beautiful how every pregnancy and birth has its own story. I always hear how different each pregnancy can be even for the same woman, but I had no idea how true that could be until I became pregnant with my second child. We had wanted a second child for a while and were hoping to have two little ones close in age so they grew up enjoying each others’ friendship. I also knew I wanted to be a full time stay at home mom while the kids are little so taking a pause on my career made more sense if we had multiple children closer together (although now the plan has changed since we plan to homeschool/unschool long term). 

I became pregnant with our first almost immediately, so it was a bit surprising and frustrating when we couldn’t seem to get pregnant with a second, although it made sense because I was still breastfeeding full time. I loved breastfeeding and I knew how much my little one loved it, so I couldn’t bring myself to wean her just because I wanted another child, so we patiently waited. Finally, around when our daughter was 20 months my cycle returned and we conceived our second child! (I also think switching to a Berkey water filtration system helped with this, but that’s another conversation). 

The pregnancy was immediately entirely different than my first. As soon as I was pregnant with my first, I found myself irritable and moody, constantly achy and tired, and most challenging, I injured my back a few weeks into the pregnancy, which remained injured and painful until giving birth. It was definitely a challenging pregnancy. With my second, I found my mood and patience improved almost immediately. I felt great other than wanting extra sleep and the occasional upset stomach!

With the pregnancies being so different, I was surprised to find I had the same long last month of pregnancy full of prodromal labor. Being much more active and healthy during my second pregnancy, I thought I wouldn’t have the long and exhausting prodromal I had with my first, so when contractions started happening around 38 weeks, I thought baby would be coming soon, but I was very wrong! 

Our sweet baby didn’t come until 42+4 after about 4 days of strong labor. Once I hit 42 weeks, I was planning to get a scan to make sure everything was healthy with baby so I could feel comfortable letting the pregnancy continue as needed. I never made the call to make the appointment because right at 42 weeks, my contractions became much stronger and regular.

I listened to birth meditations, did lots of spinning babies moves trying to make sure baby was in a good position, walked, went up and down the stairs, did squats, and labored on my yoga ball. I was in pure bliss and excited to meet my baby. I thought surely the baby would come in the night. The contractions were waking me up so I labored in the shower while everyone slept. I finally fell asleep around 4 am and was disappointed and discouraged to wake up the next morning with my contractions slowed and my baby still not here. This went on for 2 more days (Saturday and Sunday) and while it was physically exhausting, it was much more mentally exhausting. I cried countless times feeling so discouraged that again, just like with my first, I had been in labor for days. I kept resetting myself, attempting to stay in a positive and oxytocin filled space. Finally Sunday evening, I got some encouragement. I lost my mucus plug! Soon after, my contractions became more intense and I could feel baby getting lower. I moaned and huffed and puffed through them grabbing my husband and tensing up. It was the first intense pain of my labor, so I was so happy to be experiencing it because it meant PROGRESS! However, with how exhausted I was, I was not handling them well and I had forgotten to relax and let the pain and pressure flow.

Although the contractions were only getting more intense, I told my husband to go to sleep since baby would be here soon. I too tried to sleep and somehow slept between my contractions which were only a few minutes apart and was in a half asleep daze for each contraction in which I’d wiggle and tense up while lying down. Around midnight, the pain became so intense I couldn’t rest anymore and I was wiggling everywhere. In my half asleep daze, I had a realization. I needed to try and relax and breath normal during a contraction. At least just try it rather than wiggling and making noise. IT WORKED. My contractions somehow went from intense pain to slightly painful pressure. I found myself back in the blissful and excited state I had been in my first day of labor.

After a few of the relaxed contractions, I had to jump out of bed because I very suddenly and urgently needed to use the restroom due to an intense contraction. I went to the bathroom and struggled to get off the toilet because the contractions just kept coming. I threw on a diaper, a very cute adult diaper I purchased for postpartum, in case of another intense contraction so I wouldn’t have to run to the potty again. I walked to the living room and had insane pressure so I hummed and calmly breathed through the contraction but another immediately hit and I again felt like I had to pee. I tried to make my way back to the bathroom. I didn’t make it. (Thank you diaper!) While stopped by a contraction, my body involuntarily started to push and I felt a big warm rush. My water broke! It was such an intense and relieving feeling. A warm gush soaked the diaper and more water trickled when I attempted to move. At this point I whisper yelled attempting to wake my husband up. I quietly yelled “wake up! The baby is coming!” I attempted to put one back on, but it wasn’t happening because baby was coming! With each contraction, my body was pushing. I told my hubby to put the shower curtain and some towels on the bed and I kneeled on the bed while holding his shoulders. I slowly and calmly breathed when my body wasn’t forcing me to push (fetal ejection reflex). After a few pushes, I could feel the baby’s head just an inch or so inside and I recall telling my husband “I feel something but I don’t know what it is” ( I wasn’t sure it was a head because it was wrinkly from the pressure). I pushed two more times, none of which were forced, and the head still wasn’t out and I calmly repeated to myself “it’s okay it’s okay it’s okay they’ll be here soon. They’re almost here.” With another push, the head was out! The baby immediately started crying and my husband said “what do I do she’s crying!” I told him leave her and get ready to catch the baby because I still had to push them out! We were both estatic and completely calm. I kept repeating “our baby is here!” With another push, the baby shot out and only their legs were still inside. My husband held them up as I took a few breaths before my body started pushing again. They were out! I asked my husband to hand them to me and he passed the baby under my legs as I flipped over onto my back. I layed there in bliss that our sweet baby was there and we both were doing great! I asked my husband to take some pictures and grab some towels and the bowl for my placenta. Within a few minutes I delivered the placenta. We started to clean baby and I up and decided to finally check what our baby is. Our baby is A GIRL! We were pretty shocked and excited!

We were both in a beautiful, exhausted, daze completely amazed we just welcomed or second daughter into the world. It was so peaceful and nothing felt rushed. I nursed our sweet baby, took photos, and slowly started cleaning us. I had my husband help me to the restroom and shower so I could get cleaned up. After a quick shower, we all relaxed, ate food, and basked in the beauty of the experience and our new sweet child until big sister woke up and met the new addition.

I absolutely loved my freebirth and know it was exactly what I needed. If we choose to add to our family in the future, I will definitely choose to free birth again.

You may also like Ways To Prepare Your Body For An Easy & Intervention Free Birth and The Best Resources For Planning Your Ideal Birth

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The cord was over her shoulders, but not around her neck.
She latched right away!
Meeting big sister! 🖤


My Favorite Eco-Friendly Baby & Toddler Brands

The materials in clothing and toys matter! Most fabric (and toys) are not eco-friendly and have a negative impact on the Earth as well as effect your little one by exposing them to toxins. You can avoid harmful fabrics by using organic cotton! Organic cotton doesn’t use pesticides which is good for your little one, bees, and maintaining healthy soil for future growing!

While cotton is a natural fiber that can biodegrade at the end of its life, it is also one of the most environmentally demanding crops there is. The cotton industry now uses 25 percent of the world’s insecticides and 10 percent of the world’s pesticides.

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Finn & Emma

Finn & Emma is a great choice for adorable, modern baby and toddler clothes and toys that are also non-toxic and eco-friendly. Finn & Emma uses 100% organic cotton, eco friendly dyes, and all natural wood for their products. Finn & Emma even uses fair trade practices! Most of my baby items are Finn & Emma, especially the clothes since they’re so cute and we aim to only put our little in organic materials.

Some of my favorites by Finn & Emma:

Adorable Organic Rompers Just in time for Spring and Summer at Finn + Emma

Beautiful Handmade Artisan Macrame Swing at Finn + Emma

Organic Toys, Teethers and Stuffed Buddies!

Little Lentil

Little Lentils Clothing is 100% certified organic cotton and low-impact dyes Little Lentils is one of the most sustainable options for clothing your baby. The Send Back and Rental Programs prevent clothes from going to the landfill! The Send Back Program allows you to send back your baby’s used clothes for 20% off your next order! They support fair labor practices and never utilize child labor. They also put 1% of all sales towards environmental initiatives.

Shop Little Lentil Clothing Here!


High quality and adorable baby basics that are non-toxic! All products are either natural bamboo textile or 100% organic cotton so you don’t need to worry about harsh chemicals on your precious little one. 

A few of my favorites from Natemia!

Baby Wooden Hair Brushes and Combs Set

White Organic Hooded Bathrobes for Babies and Toddlers

Natural Changing Pad Bundle

What are your favorite sustainable and non-toxic brands?

Natural Ways to Prepare Your Body for an Easy and Intervention-Free Birth

Pregnancy can be a beautiful experience. There’s the amazing experience of first kicks, your growing bump, shopping and preparing all the cute baby items (checkout my non-toxic baby registry), and, of course, meeting baby! However, some women experience anxiety when nearing labor. It’s no surprise many women experience anxiety about labor when we commonly hear and see horror stories about birth in the media and from others. However, many women still have easy and uncomplicated births and you can too! Whatever your desired birth, natural homebirth or uncomplicated and gentle hospital birth, it is important to prepare your body. There are many natural and easy methods to prepare your body for birth!

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Prenatal Vitamins

Proper nutrition throughout your pregnancy is the best thing you can do to keep your baby and body healthy and ready for labor. A good balance of of vitamins and minerals allows the uterus to contract effectively and prevent difficulties during labor such as hemorrhage. Easily absorbed prenatal vitamins and a balanced diet will help ensure your baby and body are healthy and ready for labor.


Dates are a delicious and nutritious treat that can benefit you greatly in preparation for labor and postpartum. Dates can provide you with antioxidants, high levels of magnesium (which can also lower blood pressure), and choline, a key vitamin B. They’re also a great source of iron, calcium, copper, manganese, and fiber! Not only will dates give you a great nutritional boost, research has found they can lower your need for induction, lower need for interventions, and lower risk of complications.

Women who ate six dates a day from 36 weeks until birthing dilated more quickly, had intact membranes (water hadn’t broken) more often, and needed induction far less frequently (96% went into labor spontaneously) compared to the control group which ate no dates.

Research showed that women who were given dates to eat experienced significantly less postpartum bleeding over women who received a Pitocin injection.

If you’re not a big fan of dates, but want the awesome benefits for labor, you can try this tasty organic date syrup. We use it for baking or topping waffles as a great low glycemic alternative!

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Nettle Leaf Tea

Nettle leaf tea is amazing for the last few weeks of pregnancy. It’s important to not use nettle tea before 35 weeks because there’s not enough research to decipher if it may cause preterm birth since it encourages the uterus to tone and contract. However, consuming Nettle Tea during the end of pregnancy may decrease risk of complications and increase chances of a shorter and easier labor.

Nettle leaf tea is also beneficial in preventing hemorrhage due to it’s high iron and vitamin K content.

Nettle is a superb source of vitamin K, and increases available hemoglobin, both of which decrease the likelihood of hemorrhage.

Nettle tea is also helpful because the high calcium content helps the uterus to contract effectively.

The high calcium content, which is readily assimilated, helps diminish muscle pains in the uterus, in the legs and elsewhere.

Red Raspberry Leaf Tea

Red raspberry leaf tea, probably the most well known herb used for pregnancy, is a great tool to prepare your body for labor. Similarly to Nettle Tea, it is recommended to only use this tea after 35-37 weeks because it’s ability to tone and contract the uterus, possibly increasing risk of preterm labor. Red Raspberry Leaf Tea is a delicious and easy way to tone your uterus in preparation for an easier labor.

The fragarine compound found in red raspberry leaves is known to help tone and tighten muscles in the pelvic area, including the walls of your uterus, which can help make delivery easier.

Not only will it likely make labor quicker and easier, it will also decrease your risk for intervention.

Women who drank red raspberry leaf tea later in pregnancy had reduced use of forceps and other interventions, as well as a reduction in the likelihood of pre- and post-term labor

Yoga Ball

An exercise or birth ball is really helpful in preparing your body for labor. Using a yoga or exercise ball during pregnancy can help strengthen the back and abs, open up the pelvis, and increase your chances of a shorter and easier labor.

Sitting on the ball in an upright position can also encourage the opening of your pelvic muscles, allowing room for the baby to descend into the pelvis in preparation for birth.

Find great exercises for kick starting labor on a birth ball here.


Exercising regularly during pregnancy may shorten the duration of your labor as well as decrease your risk of needing a c-section. (See why to avoid a C-section here).

The American College of Nurse Midwives, The American Congress of Obstetricians and Gynecologists, and the Society for Maternal and Fetal Medicine all endorse exercise during pregnancy.
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Let me know if you find these tips helpful! Was there something you did previously that helped prepare your body for labor?

My Minimalist and Natural Baby Registry

A Non-Toxic Guide To Everything You Need For Baby

There are SO many baby items. You can (and I have) spend hours upon hours looking into all of the different products. Creating a baby registry we love can be hard because we want what’s best for our babies but there’s endless products advertised that are dangerous, toxic, bad for development (see preventing container syndrome and growing a creative child), and just bad quality. For the mamas looking for non-toxic, gentle products that also support development, I’ve designed this guide to creating a registry you’ll love.

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Gear is a great area to cut down on clutter and cost. You don’t need a ton of different things to put your baby in. Not only is it costly and takes a lot of space in your home, having a lot of “baby containers” is bad for baby’s development (learn more here). Stick to the basics and invest in high quality gear.

Car Seat

The Maxi Cosi is my favorite because it has great safety ratings, it’s easy to use, and they don’t use toxic flame retardants on their seats. It also saves lots of money by being convertible and growing with your child! No need for a bucket car seat or buying a booster later.


A lot of bouncers and rockers contain harmful flame retardants. There are a few natural options that are great!

Shop Natural Baby Rockers at Finn + Emma.

I also love the aesthetic and organic Bloom Coco Rocker.

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Baby Carrier

Wearing babies allows you to carry them in a position that’s beneficial to their physical health and development. It helps prevent flat head syndrome and can promote digestion (helping with colic and refluxes). Babywearing also increases the amount of time spent doing skin-to-skin with your baby, which research has connected to decreased rates of postpartum depression.

Organic Boba Baby Wrap

Portable Crib & Play Yard

Lotus Portable Crib and Play Yard is the safest play yard as it is the only playard with non-toxic certification (low voc & no lead, phthalates, pvc, heavy metals, etc).


We chose to cosleep and have a bedside cosleeper. We decided to never get a crib, which saved money and worked great for us! However, I do understand that doesn’t work for some families, so I’ve included some natural crib gear as well!

Organic Crib Sheet

Organic Crib Mattress


Cloth Diapers

We decided to cloth diaper in order to make sure our daughter isn’t exposed to toxic chemicals commonly in diapers as well as to lighten our environmental footprint. We LOVE cloth diapers. They’re cute, easy to use, and don’t create waste! Plus, you save a TON money. We used these cute pocket diapers.

Disposable Diapers

We love these compostable, non-toxic bamboo diapers! We used these for travel or anytime we needed to take a break from cloth diapers (such as when we were moving).


We’ve primarily used reusable wipes and had great success with them. There are some great natural recipes, but we typically would use just warm water and a few drops of lavender oil which smells great and is naturally antibacterial.

Organic Reusable Baby Wipes

Reusable Wipes Container (BPA-free)

Disposable Wipes


Organic Portable Changing Pad

Organic Changing Pad Cover


We love this large BPA Free, PVC Free, Phthalate Free, Lead Free, Non-Toxic, & Recyclable Polypropylene baby bath. It’s a bonus that my toddler can still fit in it!


Always aim for organic!

100% Organic Gender Neutral Baby Clothes

While cotton is a natural fiber that can biodegrade at the end of its life, it is also one of the most environmentally demanding crops there is. The cotton industry now uses 25 percent of the world’s insecticides and 10 percent of the world’s pesticides.

Cute Organic Baby Clothes at Little Lentil Clothing



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Reusable nursing pads are a must-have, especially the first few months while your supply is regulating. Not only are the reusable more sustainable, they’re also more comfortable. It can be really uncomfortable if the “fuzz” from disposable pads stick to your already sore nipples!

Breastfeeding Essentials Bundle


Always check with your insurance if they will cover a breast pump and if so what kind. I got an awesome $300 pump fully covered by my insurance!

BPA- Free Hand Pump

   Bottle Feeding

Glass Baby Brezza Bottle – All materials are food grade, FDA approved and free of BPA, BPS, Phthalates and all other harmful chemicals

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Organic Vitamin K Drops

Organic Vitamin D Drops



Natural Rubber Pacifier

Bibs Natural Rubber Pacifier

Both are 100% free from BPA, PVC and phthalates


The Best Organic Toys, Teethers and Stuffed Buddies On Finn + Emma!

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Read my list of a minimalist Mama’s pregnancy must-haves here.


Check out my everything you need for a homebirth here.


Find everything you need for a natural quick recovery here.

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