As a mama who wanted an unmedicated birth herself, I was curious why other moms took a similar path, whether a home birth or hospital birth. I surveyed the moms of Green Mama Life and here are the REAL answers!
Fast labor, also known as precipitous labor, is defined as labor that last two or three hours. Many women noted they had planned to have an epidural, but we’re unable to due to quick labor. When quick labor occurs, women may jump into the end phase of labor quickly or arrive at the hospital too close to delivery to receive an epidural.
The hospital being understaffed was definitely my least favorite answer. The epidural is a choice so I find it upsetting, as I’m sure many women do, that hospital staffing is a factor in women’s birth choices. Although women noted they were usually happy with the overall experience of not receiving an epidural, I do believe we need to do better to support women in birth.
Some women mentioned their desire to really just see what their body was capable of. A few women who skipped the drugs found they felt more empowered after experiencing natural childbirth as they really saw how amazing and capable their bodies’ are.
Along with owning the power of the female body, women noted they wanted the whole experience. Women were curious about what birth felt like without numbing and wanted full control over their pushing and movement.
Some women mentioned their previous experiences made them want to skip the epidural. A few women noted bad experiences with the epidural leaving them with no desire to do it again while others noted experiencing an epidural with one birth and not with the second and preferred the birth and recovery experience without the epidural.
Many women, including myself, noted our fear of the epidural. Their fears ranged from a literal fear of needles, fear of it leading to a c-section, to fear of it harming the baby. All of these fears are valid. As mentioned in the Previous Experience section bad experiences with epidurals do happen.
Common symptoms from an epidural include itching, nausea and vomiting, fever, soreness, and a drop in blood pressure, while more uncommon, yet still prevalent, symptoms include difficulty breathing, severe headache, infection, seizure, and nerve damage.Healthline
Did you skip or plan to skip the epidural? What was your reason? Have you had an experience with an epidural?
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For those of who love the great outdoors, we want to pass that love down to our children. One way to start is to give your little one a nature name!
As parents who are Eco Friendly it can feel like an uphill battle trying to get everything your little one needs and make parenting a little easier, while also minimizing the amount of waste we create and the amount of non- natural products we use. Being a mom focused on creating minimal waste and providing my daughter with a non-toxic environment, I wanted to share tips and products I use so you don’t have to spend hours researching all the different options like I did!
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I knew from the start I wanted to limit our use of plastic because it’s bad for the environment and leaches toxic chemicals over time (even BPA free), so also bad for our babies! I know what I DIDN’T want to use but had no idea what could be a kid friendly alternative. After lots of research I decided bamboo was the best option! Not only is bamboo sustainable, but it’s also a natural, sustainable, and non-toxic material.
Not only is it more Eco friendly to avoid plastic and electronic toys, it’s actually better for your little one’s development! (Check out Growing A Creative Child for more information). These are my Toddlers favorite simple and eco friendly toys. These toys are also great because your little one won’t grow out of them quickly!
Ok, so this is the one plastic toy I will suggest because my daughter is obsessed with the song “Wheels On The Bus” and this company is great and their products are made in the USA from 100% recycled plastic milk containers that save energy and reduce greenhouse gas emissions. It’s also great to have some toys with wheels to help children explore cause and effect.
We love cloth diapering and use them most of the time. They’re great because nothing goes to the landfill and no harsh chemicals on my little, however I know it’s not for everyone, so bamboo disposable diapers are a great second option and we’ve used these a lot as a backup option, especially when traveling!
For the little ones who are ready to start potty training, we found this awesome BPA free potty. Our little one loves it and it’s super easy to clean.
I hope you find these products are helpful in your search for being an eco friendly parent!
Comment below any other eco friendly items you may be looking for or your favorite products you’ve found!
Making The Decision To RV Full Time
From Santa Cruz, CA to Bend, Oregon, and to our current home Montpelier, Vermont, we have explored dozens of small towns and big cities, driven cross country, sold all our belongings and relocated (twice), and lived on opposite ends of the U.S., yet, we are wanting to go again! We’ve been considering moving to Washington as we miss the West Coast, yet want to avoid wildfires (OK maybe you can’t avoid them in Washington either), but really we just aren’t sure where to land. We are over moving, yet not content in staying still. Solution? RVing.
We’ve made the decision to become full time RVers this coming spring. We’ve decided the best thing for us is to pause the hamster wheel, jump out of the cage, and get on an adventure. A real, never experienced this and have no idea what we’re doing kind of adventure.
And we are bringing our toddler (duh), two dogs, one cat, and a fish named cookie.
Are we crazy? Maybe a little, but we manage all this craziness in a home where I stay at home by myself with all these crazies, so life will indeed be easier and more fulfilling for me when my husband quits his job and starts directing this circus with me full time.
Not only have we made the decision to find our ideal forever home by RVing and exploring all the edges of North America, but also we LOVE to travel and we LOVE road trips.
Two weeks ago, we went on a small road trip to camp for a few days by Lake Champlain in Vermont. What I realized on this trip, although I’ve thought about it occasionally previously, was I’m truly at my happiest when exploring a place I’ve never been. It also seemed this was true for our toddler and dogs (also brought along our beta fish). We all were blissfully exploring and playing, so why not live that pretty much everyday?
That is the question we have been asking ourselves over and over – why not live our happiest moments all the time – that lead us to this decision.
So here we go!
Follow along on our journey to pick our home on the road, remodel, and begin the traveling!
Five Ways to Encourage Creative Play
Creative play supports cognitive development, emotional intelligence, and critical thinking skills.
Creativity involves cognitive processes that transform one’s understanding of, or relationship to, the world.
Children explore their roles in the world and their impact on the world around them through creative play. It’s important for children to process and understand their world as well as express their emotions through creativity for emotional well-being.
Follow these easy tips to support your child’s development through creative play and building the skill of creativity!
The environment is key in encouraging creative play. It is important to create a “no” free zone that children know they can engage in without criticism or many limits. If it’s not possible to always have this space set up, you can get a large baby gate to section off an area that you can add toys or art supplies the child can engage with freely. Providing a playroom, if possible, is a great option as well.
Research actually found children engaged more and formed more cognitive connections when using simple, wooden toys rather than electronic “learning” toys. Keep simple toys that can be used for multiple purposes and imaginative play available at all times.
Always make sure there is time in the schedule for your child to engage in play without direction or a goal. See the article How Lazy Parents Win at Parenting for more information.
Simple, give children space to play on their own without direction. However, ignoring children or forcing them to have alone time will only create children to be more “needy.” A child’s emotional and attachment needs must be met before they are interested in solo and imaginative play.
Show your child how to use their imagination! Read some fantasy books together or grab a stick and pretend it’s a wand. Teach your children it’s ok and even encouraged to engage in creative play and use things in creative ways.
“You can’t use up creativity. The more you use the more you have.” — Maya Angelou
Going From Angry Mom To Calm Mom
It can be difficult to not just shout emotionally whatever needs to change, however you and your little will be much happier if you calmly state your expectation before the crazy arises. Set both of you up to succeed by always saying what behaviors you do want rather than what you don’t want. Most children under 3 actually can’t process negative commands, so literally cannot do what you want. Try saying “please keep the marker only on the paper,” rather than “don’t color on the wall.” You’ll feel like they’re listening way more & you’ll feel like a calmer mama!
How you think about what your child is doing will reflect in how you treat your child. Therefore, we need to change when we are finding ourselves irritated. When you find yourself thinking “they’re really doing that again” or “I’m so annoyed right now,” stop yourself and think positive. For example you can think to yourself “actually I’m really not bothered” or “that actually isn’t a big deal.” Sometimes we need to choose our battles and realize what’s really worth the stress.
Post a few daily mantras to start shifting your thinking. For some encouragements you can check Encouragements For The Overwhelmed Mama. Start simple with a few like “I’m feeling calm” or “I control my inner peace” and slowly work up to more specific mantras about you and your family. It is helpful to mantra around behaviors your child does that are pet peeves or a stress trigger for you. One I use is when my little randomly screams at the top of her lungs- “I feel calm. She’s just exploring her voice.” Using a mantra around the behavior will keep you from getting worked up and reacting in an undesired way.
Make a list, or at least a mental list, of how you’ll respond to common issues with your child for the day. For example, if you know that your child is a tantrum thrower, decide in the morning that you will keep your calm and address their feelings calmly and kindly and not take the tantrum personally.
All right, I’m sure you’ve heard this on repeat now because it’s all the rage on social media right now, but it needs to be said. You can only be the best parent when you are feeling your best. This means feeling healthy, mentally and physically. Make sure you are getting enough vitamins and minerals. Vitamin and mineral deficiencies are linked to depression and anxiety as well as irritability. Also try getting a food sensitivity test, food sensitivities can cause irritability as well. Exercise and getting outside daily are both great ways to relieve stress and feel better.
Pay absolutely no mind to people who say you’re going to spoil your child. You literally can’t love on your child too much, research has confirmed this people. Hold those sweet babies (or jumbo kids) any chance you get. The more you touch and bond the more you will trigger the release of oxytocin in each other and the less stressed both of you will feel!
The real secret to being a calm mom is trying out the different approaches, finding what works best for you and your family then sticking to it! You got this Mamas.
For more support and tips check out 5 Tips To Be A Better Parent.
Motherhood is hard. Sometimes we feel as if it is consuming us and the “productive adult life” we once lived is slipping away. It’s normal and okay to feel this way. Here are some little encouragements to remind you that parenting is enough.